tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3975689768082965092024-02-20T03:06:26.242-07:00Behind Door #307Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.comBlogger684125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-14828371870880209382014-10-10T11:11:00.003-06:002014-10-10T11:11:20.052-06:00Weekend to Do<br />
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<li>write annotated bibliography for comparative analysis on Goethe's Faust vs. Kubrick's The Shining</li>
<li>whip up some pumpkin pie martinis and sip while baking actual pumpkin pie</li>
<li>indulge in baked french toast , mimosas, and jazz for Sunday brunch</li>
<li>revel in the process of cooking Thanksgiving dinner and linger over the meal with a bottle of vino</li>
<li>enjoy a fall walk with Molly holding hands with my husband</li>
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Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-61285722388276063042014-08-12T21:53:00.001-06:002014-08-12T22:04:54.944-06:00Identity CrisisIt's hard to write this... even though I know I don't have to hit publish. It's been a struggle -- for the last 4 months I have been the happiest I have ever been and the saddest I have ever been. And it's not something you can really talk to anyone about.<br />
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People ask all of the time how married life is. And it's fine. and the same. and it feels like a lot has changed when actually nothing has really changed. It's confusing. And there was that little blip in June that added some sadness, yet shed some new light on the direction we want to take in our lives together.<br />
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I have been researching a lot -- apparently 1 out of 10 brides can feel like this. And if you think about how many weddings per day around the world happen, this is a lot of brides. A part of me doesn't know if it's because of my identity crisis -- who am I as a new wife with a new last name and a reminder of my vows around my finger that glistens at me every time it caches the light? Or am I still dealing with the loss we experienced, still wondering about the what ifs, what it would be like today, what it could have been like tomorrow?<br />
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I haven't been the best bride -- I am all smiles and joy to strangers, friends and family, yet with my husband, I am an emotional roller coaster. I am thrilled to come home to him, yet feel lost while here. I laugh at his jokes while also feeling irked that he is making them. Like I said, I am the happiest I have ever been....and the saddest.<br />
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The sources I have researched all say the same thing -- I feel this way because my project I have been working on for two years is completed. A one day affair that took months of planing. Or because I took on the new last name, relinquishing who I was to become his wife. And I can see how both of these things are affecting me.<br />
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I thought about finding someone to talk to...then worried that it couldn't be a good sign four months in to find a therapist. I finally spoke to Rainman about all of this. And, though I was worried he would be defensive and take it personally, he was so supportive and told me we would get through this. Hey...we got through Europe together right? Despite language barriers, late trains, bad hotel reviews, strange traffic signs, we were a team and enjoyed every little part of that journey. With that in mind, I know I can battle this thing that's causing me to be all over the place and is draining my energy.<br />
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So today, I thought about how maybe re-framing this whole scenario may help....instead of looking at the loss of Laura Brouwer, I have this great opportunity to create Laura Nelson.<br />
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What kind of person is Laura Nelson? What kind of wife is she? what kind of employee is she? what kind of mother could she potentially be? friend? family member? general member of society? It's going to take patience, some trial and error, and pushing myself in new directions, but I think Laura Nelson can be a pretty cool wife -- perhaps still stepping out of her sporty car in 5 inch heels when picking up her little one from soccer practice.<br />
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<br />Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-36034076056030235402014-08-08T09:53:00.001-06:002014-08-08T09:55:03.247-06:00Flashback FridayThe things that made me smile big this week:<br />
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<li>Monday was a holiday. I finished my second assignment for The Faust Theme course I am currently studying online, followed by beer and mindless television vegging. It's all about balance my friends.</li>
<li>I had a dentist appointment on Wednesday and the hygienist asked if I was using an electric tooth brush now (I'm not -- manual all the way) and commented that i had very little build up. Want to know what I am doing differently? That coconut oil pulling thing that is posted 8 million times on Pinterest. So....I think its working (toxins be gone!)!</li>
<li>I met up with my best friend in high school for a glass of wine. We haven't sat down in probably 10 years and it turns out we now live down the street from one another. And even though it's been many, many, many years, it didn't feel like any time had gone by at all and we could pick up where we left off. </li>
<li>I am cutting more and more seconds off of my time per km while running. This week I am averaging 6:05 minutes per km. My goal is to get it down to 5:00 minutes. Totally achievable with less (or no) walking breaks... Also, I signed up for the Rock the House 5k again with a goal to run it in 25 minutes. Last year I ran it in 28:41:95 (chip time). I might be really pushing myself to cut almost 4 minutes off --- but, what's life without a stretch?</li>
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Not a bad week. Looking forward to the weekend :) TGIF!</div>
Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-55698154568289930202014-07-23T11:55:00.003-06:002014-07-23T11:57:00.842-06:00Hello again, my old friend -- Mid Year ReviewIt's been a long, long, long time!<br />
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Here's whats been happening in my life:<br />
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<li>Kitty passed away from a long life of loving last December. We were all deeply saddened, but it hit my Oryx the hardest. His depression led him to stop eating and his liver failed. He passed away a few weeks later. My heart still breaks for him.</li>
<li>I was offered a new position at work which I excitedly accepted. I am back in the marketing group, working on residential marketing strategies and managing the SEM side of things. It's been an awesome learning experience. I am currently working on achieving my Adwords Certification, as well I enrolled in a Marketing and Strategic Communications Certificate program for this fall.</li>
<li>I am officially married. After a fabulous shower, stagette, and endless months of planning, I walked down the aisle on April 19th to my handsome husband. It seriously was the best day of my life. We had so much fun and its always nice having friends and family toast you with compliments. You can check out pictures in a slideshow here: <a href="http://animoto.com/play/6YV0R0H2mWDb0QOBBhqoNw">http://animoto.com/play/6YV0R0H2mWDb0QOBBhqoNw</a></li>
<li>We left for our honeymoon in May, crossing the pond to tour Amsterdam and Hamburg. It was a fabulous adventure filled with so many laughs. From sipping coffee in castle courtyards to bottles of beer in bars, I am so happy we were able to start off our new life together with these memories. Rainman may also have a little bit of the travel bug now, so hopefully we will hit up a beach with cervazas soon.</li>
<li>I was in a car accident, but thankfully I wasn't hurt. My sweet little corolla didn't make it though and was written off. I have now joined the Civic nation with a 2014 Honda Civic Sedan Touring. She's been pretty fun to drive around town in.</li>
<li>Molly celebrated her 14th birthday. We are all pleasantly surprised that my little dog who was given 6 months in 2008 after her heart attack made it another 6 years. She is an old lady who still has quite a few puppy moments left in her now. I cherish every morning we face another day together.</li>
<li>Rainman and I felt a void in the house so we recently adopted two kittens -- Dutch and Deutsch, our honeymoon namesakes. They have country roots, born in a barn. Slowly though, they are getting used to having humans around and its been a pretty fun week.</li>
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Looking forward to the second half of the year and all I have planned for it. New wife, new life :)</div>
Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-7879472421848242202013-10-21T10:22:00.000-06:002013-10-21T10:24:07.367-06:00The Weekend<div style="text-align: right;">
.went on a garlic fueled date at the Garlic Clove with my fiance. He has insisted that we start having a once-a-week-date-night again. Wasn't too hard to convince me.</div>
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.attended a Stella and Dot jewelry party, fell in love with a snake ring, gorged on candied bacon and sipped mimosas. Perfect Saturday morning.</div>
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.enjoyed a delicious gourmet hotdog at Tubby Dog -- I always feel a bit more bad ass after hanging out there.</div>
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.put on my brave face and went to Screamfest -- a series of haunted houses. We made it through 5 out of 6 houses before the line ups got ridiculous. After we kind of rushed through the first house, I told Rainman we should really take our time in the second house and enjoy the details. Which was all fine until some creepy zombie thing chased me with some noise making power tool and I took off running, leaving Rainman for dead. So, now he knows what would happen if we were ever in that kind of situation -- </div>
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. created and served a Harry Potter inspired brunch with Team McAwesome at Ronald McDonald House Southern Alberta. The menu included crackled dragon eggs, pumpkin pasties, golden snitches, gillyweed, and magic wands. My outfit of the day (OOTD) was heavily influenced by the characters in the novel. The brunch was well received by both kids and parents staying at the house.</div>
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.decided to get about a foot cut from the ends of my locks. My head feels a lot lighter now, despite some anxiety about losing my strength a la Samson.</div>
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.finished up my weekend with a Saskatoon Berry Martini and a new episode of The Walking Dead (in which I bawled).</div>
Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-11860541019951748562013-10-15T11:32:00.003-06:002013-10-15T11:33:04.284-06:00New Bucket List Item<br />
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<li>Participate in the annual Zombie Walk.</li>
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Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-74620414577524532412013-10-04T22:18:00.003-06:002013-10-04T22:20:22.853-06:00GratitudeThis morning I received a voice memo file via text from my beautiful Michelle (this was super cool to me because I had no idea one could do this....). She acknowledged that she knew I was challenging myself to 31 days of thanks and she too was embarking on her own path of gratitude. She then went on to state she felt compelled to share with me the words she had written about why our friendship was important to her.<br />
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This brought tears to my eyes as I listened to her appreciation of my characteristics. I was not only feeling very moved by her sincerity, but also because this has been a very awakening year for Michelle and those lucky enough to be a part of her world.<br />
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I won't ever forget the phone call I received last November. She stated she had news to share and I excitedly stated that I loved news! To which she revealed that this wasn't super awesome. Her doctor had confirmed that the lump in her breast was cancer. My natural instinct was to try anything to make this feel better, keep the positive in my voice, send her a laugh or two. We spoke for about half an hour until she needed to get off the phone to make more phone calls. I cried a lot for my friend that night. I was scared for her, for her future. I was mad that someone who is always the first one to sign up to make the world more sparkly had to have this happen. That night I stopped believing in karma. I was tired of thinking about "what goes around, comes around" when someone so beautiful with such a huge heart and a caring soul would have to face the most unbiased disease known to mankind.<br />
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In the beginning of 2013, she held a head shaving party. It was a week before she began her chemo treatments and it was in honour of words of wisdom given to her--- and to all in attendance -- by her dad. Michelle had told her parents that she had cancer and it really sucked. Her dad replied that cancer absolutely sucked, but Michelle had to "un-suck it." More than 10 people shaved their heads that night, lots of tears ran down faces, lots of hugs and smiles were shared. And we all began our journey to walk beside Michelle as she began hers.<br />
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2013 was full of so many ups in this journey and a few downs. We all learned to appreciate each other a bit more. We all learned the importance of letting our loved ones know they are loved. We all learned to celebrate each chemo treatment with a song and a dance. Michelle is not the first person to face this, she won't be the last. Through her guidance we were all able to come together to tell cancer to go un-suck itself.<br />
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Michelle sent me a message this morning expressing her gratitude for me -- she stated she loved that I took charge and created a life I wanted to live. This last year she taught me so much about creating a life I want to live. Looking at the positive, looking at ways to embrace the hurdles, accepting help from friends, stepping back for a second to look at the drama being created and deciding if it was worth it,<br />
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On Sunday I walk with Michelle and her huge support network in a solitary union of telling cancer off at the CIBC run for the cure. I am so lucky to have such a beautiful person in my close network. Every day I am so very thankful that she is here to share with me the beauty of life.<br />
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Gratitude doesn't even express how I feel for this friendship.<br />
<br />Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-1550810998904210192013-09-30T22:11:00.002-06:002013-09-30T22:22:25.005-06:00Thankful<span style="font-family: inherit;">With the changing of the leaves, the drop in temperature, the layers of clothing, and the smell of spiced pumpkin comes October. As we harvest the fruits of our labour from the Spring and Summer seasons, we begin to prepare for the celebration of Thanksgiving.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">September was my month to focus -- to reflect on my goals and the direction I wanted to steer my life in. To take the steps and measurements to instilling habits that would serve me better. I spent a month running, a month learning to breath and bend, a month of planning the "new" year.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Melody Beattie said "<span style="background-color: white; line-height: 20px;">Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow." It's the perfect reasoning as to why m</span>y challenge for October is developing an attitude of gratitude. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">31 days of appreciation for the things I have, the people I am surrounded by, the challenges that bring change. 31 days of praising the life I love. 31 days acknowledging my personal cornucopia.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">I will be using the hashtag #31DaysOfThanks on Instagram and Twitter. Some days may be an abundance of gratefulness, others may be a struggle to find even one thing. My hope is at the end of 31 days to have a refreshed outlook on life, how I got here, and where I am going. And in the process to grow, have more joy, and bring joy to others.</span><br />
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<br />Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-39346730540247687552013-09-25T09:51:00.001-06:002013-09-25T09:59:01.740-06:00April 20, 2014My eyes slowly open and I look beside me. He is still sleeping peacefully, my husband. We have been married less than 24 hours. I reach over and place my hand on his, smiling to myself. I am a Mrs.and get to have sleepover parties with my best friend for the rest of our life.<br />
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The day before is a montage of moments over flowing with emotions. From seeing his face look at me as I walked to him holding my daddy's arm, my stomach fluttering with butterflies. Our first kiss as Man and Wife. The joy of seeing our loved ones all in the same room. Sitting quietly in the limo, enjoying a moment of solitude before entering the reception and having wishes toasted upon us over dinner. Dancing, laughing, his hand on the small of my back. The decor, the food, the love. Posing for photographs to capture each of those moments, unknowing which moments were caught candidly.<br />
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As so many before us stated, the day was over too quickly. We had documentation stating that we were now bonded legally till death do us part. We professed and publicly displayed our commitment to over 100 witnesses while hosting a fabulous party.<br />
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And here I am, relaxed, reliving those moments with elation. I test out my new last name, quietly in my head and then aloud. He wakes up, pulls me in close to his chest, and tells me he loves me.<br />
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We begin the next chapter of our lives. Happily. Ever. After.<br />
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<br />Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-6778151508872021182013-09-24T13:03:00.002-06:002013-10-15T11:32:49.375-06:00New Bucket List Item<br />
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<li>Attend Paris Fashion Week</li>
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Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-73327787016113213762013-09-23T15:39:00.000-06:002013-09-23T15:41:57.864-06:00The Weekend<div style="text-align: right;">
.caught up on Under the Dome. A summer series that I still have no idea what it was truly about, although I think corruption. Aliens are not fans of corruption. I also learned that the worst insult EVER is to call a man a politician. SUPER BURN!</div>
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.continued with my 30 day yoga challenge. Hot Core is a tough class. You won't realize it until the next day. </div>
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.ran the Rock the House Run 5K for Ronald McDonald House Southern Alberta. My Chip time was 28:41:95 -- which means I was able to get my 5k under 30 minutes. And I placed 19th out of 480 for my gender. I'll take it! The mile a day for 30 days challenge was the key to this I think. I am on day 29 today.</div>
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.volunteered for TLB Group's YYC Rocks for Future Rock Stars event. 30 bands came together over 2 days, and for a minimum donation of $10, the audience was treated to a thriving indie scene in Calgary Rock music. I am still waiting to hear the final numbers from the event, but the goal is to help kids receive instruments and music lessons.</div>
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.spent Saturday afternoon painting. Set up the easel and played with acrylics while listening to Meatloaf. I would do anything for love, but I won't do that.</div>
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.watched the final episode of Dexter. And was left incredibly disappointed. Truthfully though, I would probably have been disappointed in whatever way they decided to end it. I won't provide any spoilers, it just tied up too neatly and conveniently for me.</div>
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<br />Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-24454094035091136142013-09-18T17:56:00.002-06:002013-09-18T22:40:55.441-06:00.breatheThoughts racing through my veins, details demanding to be prioritized. My pulse rising to match the tempo of sentences sent to stimulate my sensitive sensories, increasing stress reactions. It's late. I begin to feel settled and a simple notion sets off another wave of never ending ideas linked seemingly by coincidence.<br />
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I imagine my body grow heavier, enveloped by blankets, shrouding me in warmth. I count backwards, envisioning each number written out in my mind in the lost art of cursive. I embrace the thoughts, acknowledging their presence, releasing them until the morning. I feel the air fill my lungs, fill my belly, fill me until I release it with those urgent thoughts.<br />
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The heaviness gives way to light, I float into darkness. I enter the world of my subconscious. And with a final leap from the due diligence of the day, I begin to breathe.<br />
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<br />Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-59474062029902141702013-09-01T11:13:00.004-06:002013-09-18T18:13:58.224-06:00FocusI celebrated every single day of August. It was a blast -- some days I had to think outside of the box (example -- how does one celebrate Lighthouse Day in landlocked Alberta? By having lunch at the Lighthouse cafe!), other days were planned in advance. It was a great way to spend a month of summer.<br />
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It's back-to-school time. Not for me, although I wish so bad it could be. Back-to-school was always my favorite time of year -- fresh new supplies to help me succeed, new outfits to help me achieve the persona I wished to be that year, seeing friends after a 2 month break and the challenges of learning something new by applying what you already knew. I know I am not the only person who still feels like September is more of a new year then New Years -- Google this and I bet you will find tons of blog posts on the very subject.<br />
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It's a great time for me to work on goals I have. Take deep breaths and focus on what I want to achieve. It's the final third of the year, so there are still 4 months to complete goals set out on January 1.<br />
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My plans for focus in the next 30 days are as follows:<br />
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<li>A 30 day yoga challenge</li>
<li>Running a mile a day for 30 days</li>
<li>Playing chopped again within our deep freeze and pantry to help with budgetting</li>
<li>Checking even more off of the wedding planning to-do list</li>
<li>Abstaining from alcohol as much as possible (there are plans to hit up the Monster Trucks and, let's be honest, a girl needs draught beer while cheering on Monster Mutt and Gravedigger)</li>
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Time to sharpen my pencils and get back to business. September is in session.</div>
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Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-71861979561550598712013-08-26T09:56:00.003-06:002013-08-26T10:18:10.112-06:00The Weekend<div style="text-align: right;">
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<span style="text-align: center;">.learned about bees, watched a lady willingly allow herself to be covered in a bee necklace, tasted mead .began to dream about the possibility of one day collecting my own honey</span></div>
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.ordered in volcano rolls and recognized Vesuvius. Recalled my project on Pompeii and the entire magazine .on the history of Rome I created in the sixth grade </div>
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.watched The Perks of Being a Wallflower -- the book is better, but that's always the way</div>
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.read The Four Agreements and drank a pot of green tea sweetened with delicious honey. Quite a few Aha moments throughout this book for me</div>
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Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-90132548012718292322013-08-01T10:35:00.001-06:002013-08-02T08:47:19.028-06:00Happy AugustLet's celebrate everyday. Here's a quick reference I found online on what to celebrate each day. My goal is complete every single one of these, plus as it's National Picnic Month, I plan on eating at least one meal outside a day. Anyone else want to join in on the fun? Share your celebrations on Instagram using #31DaysOfCelebrating :)<br />
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1 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/raspberrycreampie.htm">National Raspberry Cream Pie Day</a></div>
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2 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/icecreamsandwich.htm">National Ice Cream Sandwich Day</a></div>
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3 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/mustard.htm">National Mustard Day</a> first Saturday</div>
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3 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/other/watermelon.htm">National Watermelon Day</a></div>
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4 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/friendshipday.htm">Friendship Day </a>- First Sunday in August</div>
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4 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/forgivenessday.htm">International Forgiveness Day</a> - First Sunday in August</div>
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4 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/sistersday.htm">Sisters Day</a> - First Sunday in August</div>
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4 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/coastguardday.htm">U.S. Coast Guard Day</a></div>
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5 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/worklikeadog.htm">Work Like a Dog Day</a></div>
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6 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/wiggleyourtoes.htm">Wiggle Your Toes Day</a></div>
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7 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/lighthouseday.htm">National Lighthouse Day</a></div>
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8 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/sneakzucchini.htm">Sneak Some Zucchini onto Your Neighbor's Porch Day</a> - random.....</div>
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9 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/bookloversday.htm">Book Lover's Day</a></div>
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10 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/lazyday.htm">Lazy Day</a></div>
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10 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/other/smoresday.htm">National S'mores Day</a></div>
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11 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/presidentialjoke.htm">Presidential Joke Day</a></div>
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11 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/sondaughterday.htm">Son and Daughter Day</a></div>
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12 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/middlechildday.htm">Middle Child's Day</a></div>
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13 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/chinesevalentine.htm">Chinese Valentine's Day/Daughter's Day</a> - 7th day of 7th Lunar Month</div>
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13 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/other/lefthand.htm">Left Hander's Day</a></div>
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14 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/creamsickleday.htm">National Creamsicle Day</a></div>
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14/15 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/September/vjday.htm">V-J Day</a> - which date do you mark the end of WWII?</div>
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15 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/relaxationday.htm">Relaxation Day </a>- now this one's for me!</div>
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16 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/tellajokeday.htm">National Tell a Joke Day</a></div>
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17 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/thriftshopday.htm">National Thriftshop Day</a></div>
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18 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/badpoetryday.htm">Bad Poetry Day</a></div>
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19 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/aviationday.htm">Aviation Day</a></div>
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20 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/radioday.htm">National Radio Day</a></div>
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21 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/seniorcitizensday.htm">Senior Citizen's Day</a></div>
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22 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/beanangelday.htm">Be an Angel Day</a></div>
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22 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/February/toothfairyday.htm">National Tooth Fairy Day</a> - and/or February 28</div>
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23 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/ridewindday.htm">Ride the Wind Day</a></div>
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24 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/vesuviusday.htm">Vesuvius Day</a></div>
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25 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/kissandmakeup.htm">Kiss and Make Up Day</a></div>
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26 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/nationaldogday.htm">National Dog Day</a></div>
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26 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/womensequalityday.htm">Women's Equality Day</a></div>
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27 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/forgivenessday.htm">Global Forgiveness Day</a></div>
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27 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/justbecauseday.htm">Just Because Day</a></div>
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28 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/raceyourmouse.htm">Race Your Mouse Day</a> -but we are not sure what kind of "mouse"</div>
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29 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/herbsaltday.htm">More Herbs, Less Salt Day</a></div>
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30 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/other/frankenstein.htm">Frankenstein Day</a></div>
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30 <a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/other/marsh.htm">Toasted Marshmallow Day</a><br />
<span style="background-color: transparent;">31 </span><a href="http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/August/trailmixday.htm" style="background-color: transparent;">National Trail Mix Day</a></div>
Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-19013516828336972982013-07-31T15:27:00.001-06:002013-07-31T15:37:37.247-06:00D-Baggery Witnessing on a Tuesday EveningIt was after dinner and we needed to pick up some supplies for the fur brats. The roads were fairly quiet -- even the main highway that is our only hub in and out of the suburban community we call home. We needed to switch over a lane to take the slip road East and although we signaled and started to make our way over, the truck behind us sped up, not allowing us in.<br />
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We swerved back over to our lane and as he passed us, he flipped US the bird.<br />
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Drivers take note. Rule number one of flipping someone off is to make sure they are not going to the same destination that you are speeding to.<br />
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Imagine his surprise when we walked into the pet store behind him. He nervously looked around while he waited in line. I threw him my perfected glare as we made our way over to the kittens and bunnies. He most likely thought we followed him there. I gave him another stink eye, he shuffled a little closer to the till. I looked him over, shook my head and we continued shopping.<br />
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We rounded up what we needed and reached the till as he made his way back out to the parking lot, looking over his shoulder once more at us. We made eye contact.<br />
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He jumped into his turbo fueled truck and took a swig of his drink.<br />
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And then proceeded to throw the bottle in the direction of Rainman's car. Rainman was livid as the D-bag rode off into the sunset, proud of his cowardly act.<br />
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We went to the car to make sure it was okay. The D-Bag had thrown the bottle beside our car knowing that our view would just show the general direction of his toss. The point behind it all is unclear. He didn't let us into the lane, he flipped us the bird, he happened to be going to the same place we were.<br />
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What is clear is he was a loser. And he threw his bottle of apple juice, still half full (perhaps in this negative situation it was half empty?), for a reaction. A reaction he didn't even get to witness. We had a good laugh.<br />
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Apple juice. All the rage for toddlers and the drink of choice for raging douche bags.Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-69138957928111166842013-07-29T11:32:00.002-06:002013-07-29T11:34:30.214-06:00BridezillaI am pretty sure I know why a lady glowing with love and a shiny new diamond on her left hand can suddenly turn into a fiery stress ball ready to take down anyone standing in her way down the aisle.<br />
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She is inundated wit text messaging and emails and websites and pictures. And though this can be very helpful in sparking new ideas to mix with tradition, it can also be very overwhelming, especially when the bride would love to incorporate ALL of the great ideas.<br />
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She is consistently asked questions about the wedding planning. Which in turn causes the bride-to-be to seemingly only talk about her upcoming wedding. And worried that she may bore her audience if there are not any new developments. And fearful that the little details she wants to make her day unique are being dissected and judged.<br />
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She feels this incredible pressure to have the perfect wedding, look perfect in her dress, eat perfect food, dance to perfect music, send out perfect invites, perfect perfect perfect.<br />
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And so she can't go for a run without thinking about how this is good for the wedding stress. And while running she thinks about the details of her wedding. And while sipping her after-run coffee, imagines her wedding day. And starts to believe that everyone is this focused on the one day so finds herself frustrated with vendors who have other events closer in date.<br />
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She finds herself turning into that Bridezilla she claimed she would never be. Which means she is now stressing that her loved ones may not even want to attend this very important date and are distancing themselves because they are irritated with her trivial dilemmas and dramas.<br />
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Her solace is her fiance who knows exactly how to tame the Bridezilla. And her hope that people will still remember the beauty under the beast's cape.<br />
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<br />Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-80689777630624926622013-06-07T12:59:00.000-06:002013-06-07T13:00:00.029-06:00Driving home on Wednesday, I drove up next to my fiance as he was merging onto the highway. I let him in and loved that I felt butterflies in my stomach running into him. Following him home and catching his eye in his rear view mirror the rest of the way extrapolated this feeling.<br />
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Guys, I am ridiculously in love. So there's that...<br />
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<br />Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-64112091320144104132013-05-27T23:24:00.004-06:002013-05-27T23:24:54.907-06:00Maya Angelou<h3 class="post-title entry-title" itemprop="name" style="color: #aadd99; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1.4em; margin: 0.25em 0px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 4px;">
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<span style="background-color: white;">even if she never wants to or needs to...</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">a youth she's content to leave behind....</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">retelling it in her old age....</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">and a recipe for a meal,</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">how to fall in love without losing herself..</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">and confront a friend without;</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW....</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">that her childhood may not have been perfect...but it's over...</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.. .</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">whom she can't,</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">and why she shouldn't take it personally...</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">be it to her best friend's kitchen table..</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">or a charming Inn in the woods...</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">a month...and a year...</span></div>
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Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-90084731000525446292013-05-19T19:58:00.001-06:002013-05-19T19:58:07.111-06:0011 monthsWe made a rule to have a mini count down date night on the 19th of every month leading up to our wedding. Today marks 11 months and counting.<br />
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We're in great shape!<br />
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We have our theme<br />
We have a venue for both the ceremony and the reception<br />
We know who is in the wedding party and what they are going to be wearing roughly<br />
We have a cake designed<br />
We have a DJ<br />
I have my dress<br />
We have been in contact with a graphic designer for invites<br />
We have sent inquiries to potential officiants<br />
We have started to explore photographers<br />
And many other little details are falling into place.<br />
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About my dress. It was a bit of an overwhelming experience. I had my clippings of what I wanted and had both my mom and my dad there. And my beautiful maid of honor. It took 4 dresses. I walked out in the last once and just knew. And the moment I looked in the mirror I started to tear up. They brought out a head piece for me to try and I was crying. I looked at my dad holding back tears and that was it -- full on bawling.<br />
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I felt so beautiful and it hit me that I am getting married. And imagining him looking at me as I made my way down the aisle caused me to burst with emotion. It's eleven more months. And then I get to be his Mrs. I get to share his last name. I get to continue being part of our adventures creating our dream life. And I get to start our fairy tale looking fabulous.<br />
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#lung<br />
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<br />Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-26551671584147873382013-05-06T16:01:00.000-06:002013-05-06T16:01:10.191-06:00Just a little meme to pass the day away<span style="background-color: white;"><b style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><b>The Wish List Meme, part one</b> <b> </b></b><br style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><b style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></b><br style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">1.) What are 3 things on your Wish list and why? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;">At this exact moment, I wish I had some chocolate, I wish the work day was done and I wish it was Friday because I have next week off.<br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">2.) What do you miss about your childhood? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Saturday morning cartoons </span><br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">3.) What do you do on your spare time on the weekends? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">I try to read as much as I can. I am often on the go, especially now that I balance my social life with Rainman's. It's hard to get lost in a novel for days on end and when I can, I try.</span><br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">4.) What do you appreciate most in your life? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">I appreciate my life the most. Every day I wake up, alive. That's pretty awesome.</span><br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">5.) Would you rather be rich or healthy? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Healthy.</span></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"> </span><br style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">6.) If you could go back in time would you and why? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Yes. But not back in my life time -- more like travelling to check out dinosaurs, write on a cave wall, hang out with Jesus.</span><br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">7.) Favorite game as a child? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">I liked jumping rope and singing all of the rhymes. I have always loved board games and as a child we played Frustration and Snakes 'N Ladders a lot.</span><br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">8.) What is your dream career? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif;">Being a lady of leisure and getting paid for it -- I mean attending the gallery openings, enjoying food and drink at trendy restaurants and hole-in-the-walls, exploring my own back yard and being paid to report on all of those things,</span></span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif;"><br /></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">9.) What do you do in your free time? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Read. Didn't we already cover this? Spare time and free time seem to be the same thing, no?</span><br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">10.) Favorite clothing stores? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Thrift Stores. I also like Jacob and Joe Fresh.</span><br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">11.) What TV shows can't you live without? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">If TV went away tomorrow, I would survive. I don't mind watching series like Dexter, Mad Men, Walking Dead -- but I wouldn't die without them.</span><br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">12.) 3 things you need in your life are: </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Coffee, books and music</span><br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">13.) What can't you sleep without? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">A blanket. I like feeling snug -- no matter the temperature.</span><br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">14.) What are you currently a nerd for? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Social Media platforms. I love them!</span><br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">15.) What is your favorite seasoning? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">My go to would be sea salt. I like to experiment a lot though.</span><br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">16.) What is your favorite wild animal? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Penguins!</span><br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">17.) Name 3 of your favorite childhood shows: </span><br style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">The Secret World of Alex Mac</span></span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Are you afraid of the dark?</span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Reboot</span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">18.) If you could live as a character in a movie who would it be? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Holly Golightly</span><br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">19.) Favorite vegetable? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Olives</span><br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">20.) Favorite Fruit? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Strawberries</span><br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">21.) If you had a dragon what would you name it? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Adrian</span><br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">22.) What do you put on hotdogs? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">I love hotdogs! Especially gourment ones. I have had peanut butter and jelly on my hotdog and just plain mustard. My favorite topping is saurkraut. Delish!</span></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"> </span><br style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">23.) Do you play online games? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Does my addiction to Candy Crush count?</span><br style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">24.) What's your favorite way to get inspired? </span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Reading lifestyle blogs, books and magazines.</span></span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Watching documentaries </span></span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Hanging out with my friends and listening to how they are living a charm-filled life</span></span></span>Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-50935330518528809062013-05-02T14:51:00.003-06:002013-05-02T14:51:29.959-06:0016 weekends of SummerCounting from May Long weekend till September Long weekend is how I calculate summer. And now that I am a full fledged adult who works 40 hours a week, 5 out of 7 days, it doesn't leave a lot of time to soak up the summer fun.<br />
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Even though summer pleads for spontaneity, I am a planner.<br />
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And so I am beginning to rev up for a frugal and fun summer.<br />
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My hopes:<br />
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<li>more bike rides --exploring my neighborhood and the neighborhood next to us, coasting down back roads, leisurely day trips, quick trips to run errands, just more time on the saddle. </li>
<li>early morning coffee on the balcony, late night toasts on the patio. more time outside of the house in our outdoor living areas</li>
<li>recharging my soul midday during the week by enjoying picnic lunches sitting outside. kicking off my shoes to feel blades of grass between my toes</li>
<li>more fresh fruit and vegetables bought from farmers at the market or their roadside trucks.</li>
<li>popsicles. lots and lots of popsicles.</li>
<li>mini road trips around the province. stopping at those landmarks along the highway. detouring to those landmarks that are word of mouth must-sees</li>
<li>reading everything under the sun. literally.</li>
<li>waterfights and surprise water balloon attacks.</li>
<li>blowing bubbles and sidewalk chalk murals.</li>
<li>sandals, sundresses and straw hats.</li>
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There's nothing like getting high on summertime. And making the most of every single moment.</div>
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<br />Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-87507889904032297092013-04-24T11:27:00.004-06:002013-04-24T11:27:35.243-06:00Breaking the first rule of Italian racing: looking backOh, hi! It's been awhile.<br />
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It's still not quite Spring here despite what the calendar states.<br />
Which I thought was incredibly depressing until I watched a National Geographic marathon of the effects devastating weather in the States had on civilization. Now, this little bit of snow seems like no issue at all. Things could always be worse, right?<br />
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This has been my Spring so far:<br />
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<li>My Russian grandmother passed away. We were unable to make it out to her funeral, so Rainman and I made a traditional meal of Koulebiaka in her honour. I am very thankful that I was able to spend time with her in Latvia a few years ago</li>
<li>Wedding planning. It's officially past the 365 day countdown mark. We were already ahead of the game, so now it's about nailing down the photographer and the officiant, and booking a time for me to find my dress</li>
<li>Rainman and I have decided to embark on the<a href="http://www.beachbody.com/product/fitness_programs/insanity.do" target="_blank"> Insanity</a> challenge. It's been fun, but I have never worked out so hard in my life. Even my half-marathon was easier than this workout has been. It's all worth it though.</li>
<li>My lovely Maid of Honor had her baby -- a tiny perfect baby boy. I am patiently waiting for my other lovely friend to have hers (it's scheduled for tomorrow)!</li>
<li>I have been organizing a Pay-It-Forward project where every one will help to contribute to care packages for the clients that use the Calgary Drop In Centre. Just a couple more weeks to go and things are really falling into place. We have a venue, people are signing up for the different items, we have someone from the Centre joining us to answer questions and provide an overview of the services they offer. I am really excited!</li>
<li>Team McAwesome has 3 brunches coming up over the next 3 weeks. The menus are so delicious, I was drooling while submitting them to the house. Still thinking about fruit sushi, cinnamon bun lollipops, a build your own breakfast burrito station, strawberry pizza, virgin sangria...is it lunch time yet?</li>
<li>I have been lost in Russian high society reading about the scandals of Anna Karenina</li>
<li>Rainman and I signed up for the Zombie Survivor 5k obstacle race. Hopefully this Insanity workout will help us survive and run faster than the zombies</li>
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Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-37260962632951128682013-03-06T12:17:00.001-07:002013-03-06T12:21:10.275-07:00Wedding Wedding-ness DaySomething to remember during my wedding day: <b>Be Present.</b><br />
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Don't worry about the details. Don't think about what's next or what has already happened.<br />
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Enjoy every single moment, every single conversation, every single bite of food, sip of champagne, dance.<br />
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You will only do this once -- be in the moment.<br />
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Inspired by this <a href="http://www.tobeluminous.com/2013/03/bask-in-moment.html" target="_blank">post</a> -- so far the best advice to date.<br />
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<br />Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719221631009201585noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-397568976808296509.post-77669877869478217202013-02-11T09:28:00.000-07:002013-02-11T09:41:36.139-07:00Confessions of a (former) Mean GirlI attended the screening event of <a href="http://findingkind.indieflix.com/home/" target="_blank">Finding Kind</a> hosted by <a href="http://gainingwomentum.com/" target="_blank">Womentum</a> yesterday. This documentary follows two girls as they try to understand the phenomenon of "girl world."<br />
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If you're a girl from North America, you know what "girl world" is. It starts somewhere in Jr. high and involves girls sneakily fighting to find their place on the totem pole -- all secretly vying for the top spot. It involves gossip, rumours, the ability to perfectly cut one another down with a look all while maintaining the image that girls are made of sugar and spice and everything nice. It's tougher than Survivor, where alliances are created, trust is broken, and you never truly know if it's your day to be singled out for your flaws as you walk to school in the morning.<br />
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It's learning to play the game. Learning that if you are on one side of the fence, teasing another girl, you are not being teased. Learning that even if you are not doing the teasing, but quietly looking on, you are not being teased. Learning the right things to say and do, wear and watch to keep up. Learning to deal with these "mean girls" to prepare yourself for mean bosses, mean mother-in-laws, mean acquaintances.<br />
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This phenomenon has been glamorously documented in our culture. The hit movie "Mean Girls" mocks the movement, reality shows like The Hills and Jersey Shore highlight these moments, dramas like Gossip Girl profit from the hurt feelings and cattiness. This reflection of our society in media is in turn creates a society that starts to mimic "as seen on TV" moments. And the circle of life continues.<br />
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Watching the documentary yesterday, I felt a stir of sadness. And regret. And embarrassment.<br />
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Because I was a mean girl. And I started to think about those friends I stopped talking to, stopped returning phone calls, stopped asking them to hang out. About how I decided they didn't fit into my world anymore and so I severed the relationship.<br />
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I wish the movie had asked some of the mean girls why they do what they do. They talked a lot to girls who were victims, none really owing up to the fact that she too probably had played the game. I use sarcasm and wit as a coping mechanism. And sarcasm doesn't always transfer well, which means my way of making light of situations, most often hurt people's feelings. And I have always been able to bounce from friends to friends and circles to circles to suit where I was in life. It never occurred to me that the "best" friends I left behind may be hurting from my actions. Like relationships with boys, sometimes friend relationships don't work out anymore and you need to break up. Sometimes it might be because the relationship is toxic, but most likely it might just be that you are not on the same paths anymore. I can look back and I don't know if there is any specific moment that I felt singled out. When it was my turn for the group of girls I was friends with in Jr. High to exclude me, I was upset for a day, but found other girls to hang out with. I chalked it up to the other girls having the issue, not me!<br />
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In the panel discussion following the film, an audience member brought up the fascination she had with this mean girl phenomenon in our culture. She was originally from Kenya and was an early childhood educator in both countries. She couldn't understand the neediness that characterized the Canadian children she taught as it was completely different from the those children in Kenya. And this actually makes sense to me and may actually answer why I was a mean girl as well.<br />
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In my home, I was constantly reminded how special I was, how smart and beautiful, cute and talented, etc. etc. Consistently, positive attributes were reiterated to me, to help build my self esteem. So by the time I was put out into the world with my peers and we entered school, I was sure I was the most special, the most talented, the most beautiful. Except, my guess is all parents fawn over their spawn in this manner. And once we get into the real world, we can't all be the best. And so in order to survive this world, we start to secretly tell others that so-and-so is not that fantastic -- look at her shoes, her nose, the way she drew a tree. And we start to play the game in order to fulfill that prophecy our parents told us about being so special. Not realizing that we are actually cutting ourselves down, not just the other person. And because we have been playing this inner monologue for so many years, we now don't even realize that it starts the moment we see another person. Sizing her up on her clothes, her face, her weight -- trying to assure ourselves we are still the most special.<br />
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I'm a former mean girl. Some may say I am still a mean girl. I still cut off relationships that I don't think are serving me well. I still have a horrible habit of gossiping. I still compare my positive attributes to others's negative attributes to feel better about myself. In yesterday's discussion the idea of "checking yourself" came up to stop the inner judgement that happens so naturally. This really hit home for me and I plan on taking that minute to "check myself."<br />
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I don't know if the world will ever be rid of mean girls, but it may be rid of at least one today. Because in this girl world it's most important to be kind. And it's time I start finding it.<br />
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